I will marry you

Say what? I don’t really like to showcase my relationship or broadcast it over social media because I believe my relationship with my fiancรฉ is our business. Fiancรฉ? Well, your girl up and got engaged hunni. And just like you, I never saw it coming.

You know me, I’ve always been so cynical. And when my boyfriend said he will marry me, I was like, wadever. Did I think I was not marriage material? Or was I so convinced by past relationships that he was going to “buss off” (leave) like the others?

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I never ever thought I would get married. It wasn’t something I wrote on my list. I always envisioned myself as one of those successful business women with fly cars and houses. No family or man. I wasn’t into all of that.

So when my ex told me he will never marry me, I guess that was my signal to resign from meaningless relationships. But to be honest, I didn’t care when he said it, because I didn’t want to marry him either. I just stayed, wasting time until we both got fed up of each other and that led to so much unnecessary pain.

What then makes my now relationship so different? Well, for one, he was intentional about his pursuit. I can’t say he was “on it” because I was so fly! Our first “date” was at a church service, and I was casual without any makeup on. I could have cared less about impressing some guy ๐Ÿ˜.

But I paid close attention to detail. The way he raised his hands in worship and prayed passionately. Who is this man? But I could not be bothered. I was too busy loving God to even gleam at the fields ๐Ÿ™„.

We became closer, we spent day and nights speaking about our love of God, he became my accountability partner and eventually stole my heart. He was different. He loved my flaws. He loved that I was imperfect and I didn’t have to sleep with him for him to put a ring on it. Not even a kiss.

 

“I will marry you Acki” he said. It must have been our 6th month of courtship. He made it clear that he was intentional about his pursuit and that he wanted to spend forever with me, to love me like Christ.

I was intentional too. Not to get a husband because everyone else was getting married, but to use what we have, to edify one another and to work for the kingdom.

Ecclesiastes 4:9 says two is better than one. Ha! ๐Ÿ™ˆ that is debatable ๐Ÿ˜. Because I’m sure Paul said it’s better to stay unmarried (1 Corinthians 7:8). I will touch on this debate in a later post. Ok holier than thous, don’t get your panties in a twist thinking I’m taking scripture out of context ๐Ÿ™„. My point is, one should not get married because they are getting old and lonely. But should marry because it’s the will of God for your life.

Moving steadily along, (coz imma be late for church), on my 30th birthday, aboard a ship on the French Riviera, he proposed and I said yes. Now let the wedding planning commence! (I am actually not planning a darn thing coz I can’t be bothered). ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜ซ

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Write the vision and make it plain

In Habbakkuk 2:2, we see that the prophet was instructed by the Lord to write the vision, and that vision will certainly come to pass.

What? So you’re telling me, if I write my plans down, they will come to pass? Yea rite. ๐Ÿ˜

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When I was a teenager. I thought about what I wanted by the time I was 30. I wrote them on a list, but didn’t pay much attention to it. It was not an exhaustive list but reflecting on that list, EVERY thing on it came to pass!

God sure has a sense of humour, because 2 years ago, I never imagined having the things I do nor having this peace in my life.

This year, I entered my 30th year on earth with a ring from my amazing Fiancรฉ, I bought my first car in cash and I got an unexpected promotion. I also moved into my own place, after having house shared for years.

One may say, ” that ain’t nothin”. But it was a big deal to me. I can clearly remember this girl in college laughing when I told her that my first car will be a BMW. Now I didn’t quite buy the BMW but my MINI sure has a BMW engine!

And I look back and think, God truly ordered my steps. Whilst I was still a sinner he had already provided all my needs. And all I had to do was wait on him. Habbakkuk 2:3 says, though it delays, wait for it for it will surely come.

Now what is this wait? Sit and do nothing? Oh no hunni! This wait involved me labouring! It meant me working for God and understanding grace.

Understanding that I don’t have to fight every battle, understanding that God has prepared things that exceed my expectations and most importantly seeking him first.

It is not easy to seek God first when you have been doing things on your own for years. But when you realise that God has been ordering your steps, because he knew you before you were born, you begin to rest.

Hebrews 4 speaks about that rest. And encourages us as believers to make every effort to enter it. ” For the one who has entered God’s rest has also rested from his labours just as God also rested from his”.

I refuse to become like the children of Israel who died in the wilderness. Their disobedience and unbelief resulted in them wandering for 40 years, instead of entering into God’s rest.

God gave them land to possess but instead of walking by faith, they walked by sight and didn’t live to inherit what God had already provided.

And there I was a teenager, who didn’t know God, but God already had provided his finished works for me.

Everything I have now was already in the spirit, and I had to labour into rest to possess it. I wrote a vision without really considering that it would actually manifest, but God reminded me, while I was yet a sinner, he STILL had me in mind๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฝ